Put your Energy to the Test: 18 Questions to Assess your Gender Physics

Have you ever considered whether you are expressing masculine or feminine energy? Understanding your preferred energy and how to use your opposite will increase your personal and professional effectiveness. Let me share my experience...

My first awareness of my masculine energy came at the age of five, though of course I didn't call it by that name at the time. I overheard a man telling my father that a self-sufficient little girl like me could be put out in the alley where I could easily fend for myself. It was obvious that this remark pleased my Dad, which made me feel proud. As a result, I cultivated even more of this energy and for most of my life it served me well.

However, so much focus on the outside world eventually left my internal world wanting, and I wound up feeling empty, exhausted, and depressed. It was time to develop my feminine energy. Some people may be naturally well-balanced but I had to work at it by spending time reading spiritual passages, reflecting and meditating.

To access both energies takes awareness of the attributes of each. And as a form of self-monitoring I developed an internal checklist that has now taken the form of a questionnaire. You may find it useful as well to measure your individual masculine and feminine energy.

 Answer “Yes” or “No” to each of the following questions, and record your answer.

1) In a group setting, do you naturally take the lead?

2) When you disagree with someone, do you still typically understand where they’re coming from?

3) Are you usually confident that your position is correct?

4) Do you go out of your way to make relationships work?

5) Do you usually meet your goals and hit deadlines?

6) Are you content to just "be" and let others make decisions for you? 

7) Are you protective of your property? 

8) Are you moved emotionally by music, art, or theater? 

9) Do you talk more than you listen? 

10) Do you have lots of creative ideas?

11) Do you spend a lot of time thinking about your financial security?

12) Is it important to you to be connected to people on a personal basis?

13) Do you prefer to win an argument with facts?

14) Do you feel part of a larger plan?

15) Do you view situations as “black or white” rather than “shades of gray”?

16) Do you remember your dreams and look for meaning in them?

17) Do you focus on being grounded in the here and now?

18) Do you regularly check your intuition for guidance?

For every even-numbered question you answered “yes,” give yourself a point; for every odd-numbered question you answered “yes,” take one point away. A highly positive score indicates an excess of feminine energy, while a highly-negative score indicates an excess of masculine energy. The closer your final score is to zero, the more balanced you are in your energy!

I hope this helped you increase your awareness, as that's the first Stilletto Step and the basis of enjoying good Gender Physics. Make sense?

Also keep an eye out for my upcoming E-Book "Love the Woman in the Mirror"

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Comments

[Cindy Pacheco]

Very interesting! I was teetering between 1 and 0 for a final result because I couldn't decide on #17.

I've always been a "tom boy", Betty-Ann, and proud of it. :)

[Betty-Ann Heggie]

Good comment- Maybe I need to reword that question. What I was trying to establish is the difference between the masculine energy attribute of "let's deal with what we have in the here and now" versus the feminine energy attribute of "what if?". And let me congratulate you on being very balanced. I came out a 3. You can probably credit some of that good score to being a tom boy and being proud of it. You have embraced your opposite! Thanks for the feedback, BA

[Kipley Bruketa]

I got to this rather belatedly, but I ended up with a 1 and like the previous poster stayed pretty even through most of the survey. I'm challenged because I believe that I work in an environment that may honor more masculine energy and I thought perhaps some of my frustration was that my energy was more female. However, with a score of 1 -- that may not be the issue.

Kipley

[Betty-Ann Heggie]

You are well balanced Kipley. And you are correct- most law firms are masculine energy as most do litigation which is a masculine force. However, mediation is a feminine pattern of energy. I suspect your frustration comes from a desire for more feminine activities in your daily life. When we work we are mostly in the outside world, which is masculine. Taking the time to go inside is feminine energy and you may be yearning for that. Make sense? Love, BA